Ok, this is going to be a bit brutal but here we go. I’ve seen far too many old friends, colleagues and relations suffer enormously from being unaware.
Unaware of Being Unaware
Worse still they were unaware that they were unaware.
Most of us seem to think that our bodies and minds are some how indestructible until we have the dreaded ‘wake-up call’. Even then some people carry on the same old way regardless. I have just been on my daily(ish) Mindful Walk taking pictures and enjoying the trees and fresh air. I met this guy I’ve known for years – younger than me and obviously in a bad way – maybe even had a stroke – he hadn’t got a clue who I was!
I’ve seen colleagues have (multiple) nervous breakdowns. One of them went to pay for his goods in Boots, opened his wallet and just stood there frozen until the cashier called for help.
I have a friend in his mid fifties – a great guy, intelligent and capable but can’t get a job – he’s stalled – he can’t shift his values from being an employee and just keeps on applying for jobs he’s never going to get.
One friend had undetected diabetes, had a stroke and very nearly paralysed himself for life.
If you are running fast and hard doing something you don’t really like for a reason you don’t really understand eating food that makes you feel bloated and unhealthy, drinking loads of alcohol to dull the pain and perhaps smoking to give you a nicotine (or other) buzz. Wake up!
Life is for living and enjoying (sensibly) not suffering or causing others unnecessary suffering.
I could go on a lot more – but I think you get the jist.
They Smelled the Roses
I also have friends and colleagues that have woken up and smelled the roses. One has given up a job he hated, and is teaching Moving Arts full time. I asked how he could afford to and his answer was a classic, “how can I afford not to!”.
I have a couple of friends that sold up and went to live in France – in a sensible way. Why? Because they realised that what they were doing was meaningless.
I decide to work for myself over 15 years ago to everybody’s chagrin – I didn’t fit into anybody’s ‘box’ of what I did for a living. I have a portfolio of companies I do work for and activities, I really enjoy, that I work on. If I hadn’t, I probably wouldn’t be writing this now!
What Have You Really Messed Up In?
I used to interview and employ Project Managers for the businesses I worked for. One of my questions was, “what have you done really well?”. And another was, “what have you messed up in?”. If they said they hadn’t messed up, I wouldn’t employ them. They were either lying or going to have their first mess-up working for me!
So, in the same light, have you had your wake-up call and ignored it, or are you waiting for it?
Some people running their own businesses have as many, if not more, problems than those being employed – why? Because they are not doing what they really want to do or their expectations are not being met – they are out on a limb and they are unaware of why, and unaware of what to do.
You can avoid the wake-up call, you can change your path, be preemptive and work out what to do. But in order to do that – you’ll need to think clearly. Your situation is going to be different from others’ with many different factors at play. There is no magic bullet, but there is a way to start.
You need to become aware.
Whatever You Do Don’t Start From Here
One of my mentors used to make me laugh with his stock answer to clients that used to say it was too late to do anything. His catch phrase was, “do you mean – whatever you do don’t start from here?”
Now Is A Good Time To Start